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on repeat

3/26/2018

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Emmanuelle Alt
Courtney Carver recently wrote about being a proud member of the outfit repeaters club. I am one too. My first full time job out of college involved being the school nurse to four different Head Start schools. I would work out of a different school each day. We didn't have a lot of money, but I had one pair of jeans that felt great. Since the same people didn't often see me two days in a row, I just let myself wear that pair of jeans every day. After a while, it didn't really occur to me that I should wear something different each day.

On the other hand, I know the moment when my consciousness of there being some "rules" around repeating outfits started. Some time around third grade, a classmate asked me why I was wearing the same thing I wore the day before. Well, at my house that was the system. I had three outfits + I would wear them for two days each on repeat. At that moment I became aware of a new norm.

As time went on, I surmised that what may have happened was that this classmate had wanted to wear her favorite shirt two days in a row...her had mom objected + told her that that would be inappropriate. She noticed that I had broken this "rule" + wanted to know why.

I'm guessing that this mama was operating in accordance with the perceived "rules" + was trying to avoid judgement of both herself + her child. In this way, adults pass these "rules" and judgements onto their children. If we desire to break this cycle (even if only to promote compassion for other children), it's important to communicate to our children that different people have different preferences (not rules) about these things. Maybe at our house we cheer for the Broncos + at someone else's house they prefer the Packers. Everyone has different preferences, + that is ok. An exploration of why we hold a preference might be useful, and that explanation may be offered if helpful.

When I started my small monthly wardrobes, I decided to only include one Sunday outfit for the colder months. It felt a bit weird, because I mostly only see those people on Sundays. I went ahead anyway, because when I looked at the big picture it made sense. If I had even just two Sunday outfits, I'd only wear them twice a month for a few months...maybe only ten times per year. Silly + wasteful (to me).  :)

Some tools proud members of the wardrobe repeaters club use: 
-We find a few pairs of great shoes. A change of shoes can change the vibe of an outfit.
-We decide what we like, what fits + flatters us.
-We might try a uniform of sorts...a few varied white shirts + a few varied dark bottoms...or always a dress...or always a fitted top + wide bottom...
-We take comfort (not shlumpiness) seriously.
-We wear our favorite clothes every day.
-We recognize that we get to set our own norms + that there are no rules.
-We don't take ourselves very seriously. The goal is not necessarily to have no one notice...it's to not really care (totally possible).  :)

Today I would welcome a conversation about why I wear the same things over + over. My compassion for farmers, garment workers + the environment...along with my confidence in it being ok to cover my body in the same pieces that I love day after day...just might offer someone else another option! I see this way of thinking as freedom + why wouldn't I welcome the opportunity to share it!?

Any + all are welcome in the outfit repeaters club!

Love,
Jane

Photos via link (+ the article shows lots more repeat/uniform dressing).
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Kari
3/26/2018 01:06:12 pm

Proud member here, too. I don't have enough clothes not to repeat. Eg. I only have one pair of Sunday pants and wear the same tops on Sunday that I wear during the week.

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Rebekah Jaunty
3/26/2018 01:30:13 pm

Go team! I am staunchly pro-outfit repeating; no one should be ashamed of having a small wardrobe, no matter how much or how little money they have. It's great to see someone as famously stylish as Emmanuelle Alt appreciating the garments she has.

I learned the "no repeating" rule in third grade, too; I was sitting between Shannon Smith and Steve Salmon (names have not been changed), and Shannon was really nasty about the fact that Steve had worn the same Looney Toons T-shirt two days in a row.

Now that I live in Germany, I've noticed that this expectation is less stringent here.

Outfit repeating would work better for me if my deodorant really did its job.

"In this way, adults pass these "rules" and judgements onto their children. If we desire to break this cycle (even if only to promote compassion for other children), it's important to communicate to our children that different people have different preferences (not rules) about these things. Maybe at our house we cheer for the Broncos + at someone else's house they prefer the Packers. Everyone has different preferences, + that is ok. An exploration of why we hold a preference might be useful, and that explanation may be offered if helpful."

You explained this so well.

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Jane link
3/26/2018 04:59:59 pm

Cheers, Kari + Rebekah!! :)

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Priscilla Bettis link
3/27/2018 06:07:10 am

I definitely repeat outfits. I had parents who grew up in the Depression, so that whole frugal thing was set into our way of life, including our wardrobe. I tried in the '80s to conform to the big wardrobe that everyone seemed to think was necessary, but it didn't feel right. My only thing, my hangup I guess, is that my clothes need to be CLEAN each day. So I do a load of laundry every single day. Fortunately, we have one of those washers that allow us to do a very small load efficiently, so I'm not wasting a lot of water.

I just now looked down at what I'm wearing. It is exactly the same thing as yesterday with the exception of a different pair of underthings.

I want to try an experiment some time, wearing the same thing every day. Or maybe four outfits from only two tops and two bottoms. Will people notice like your observant third grade classmate? Would they care if they did notice? I don't think so, but I'd like to find out.

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Jane link
3/27/2018 09:28:55 am

I've thought a lot about doing the wear the same thing every day thing too...as an experiment. I've even thought of what my outfit would be + have a post half written! ;)

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Linda
3/29/2018 07:13:33 pm

I'm a proud member of the outfit repeaters club. I wear the same pair of two pants & shirt (one of 5) to work each week.

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Jane link
3/29/2018 09:06:24 pm

Sounds perfect! :)

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