I love fiercely...but I am also prone to comparison, jealousy + judgement. It can often feel like my beauty + worth depend on the vibrance of the makeup of those around me...the style of clothing of the other women in the room...the volume of feminine chatter + laughter vs. the isolation I feel. It is easy to see that this line of thought leads only to discontent.
I am so much happier praising the knowledge + kindness of the nutritionist we saw recently...the gentle strength + support of our yoga teacher...the power of the woman we saw jogging out in front of her two male companions...the creativity of the blogger who published a book on a favorite topic...the tenacity of a daughter who persevered through a tough week...or the humor + grace of a mother who supported her beloved husband through an tough time.
While focusing in this direction, I forget if my eyes stand out enough or if my house looks updated enough or if what I'm wearing is slimming enough. I'm not even trying to compare to these magnificent women. I'm just celebrating the intellect + gentleness + power + strength + creativity + resilience + humor + grace + compassion + all the real beauty that is female.
...and I'm finding a little of all of that in myself as well.
The big takeaway was something called standpoint theory that was coined by the philosopher, Sandra Harding...and the theory basically says that people on the receiving end of oppressive systems..people at the bottom of social hierarchies...will see things more accurately than people at the top...the ones benefiting from the system. Black women, for example, will share a general body of knowledge about how society is...about how it works... because of their common experiences. And according to Sandra Harding that shared understanding won't just be distinctive, it will actually be better knowledge, more true, than the collective picture of the world that privileged people, like me, will soak up from our surroundings. ~John Biewen via
I highly recommend this podcast series on "men"...from the people who brought us the standout series, Seeing White.
With the average garment that we wear, it takes up to 80 people to make that garment across the entire supply chain. So if we start all the way at the fiber level, from the farms or the origin of the fiber, to the person that sold it to you...and often times the majority of that supply chain is women. ~Tara St. James via
on a journey toward zero-waste, simplicity, + compassion :: daring to choose fair one choice at a time