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2/7/2019

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I might be the perfect specimen of just one thing...imperfection.

​​A few thoughts ::

1.  The journey toward zero-waste (and a lot of other compassionate, values-driven living) is rocky. There is a lot of choice...but few perfect choices. If there was a perfect zero-waste shampoo option for everyone, all zero-wasters would be using it...and it would be so much easier to convert everyone else. As it stands, some use water only + look like disney princesses. (Others would look like they'd just stepped out of the rain.) Some are happy to mail bottles back + forth over the miles as their "waste-free" alternative. Some have access to bulk shampoo + some purchase the whole bulk jug. All are reducing waste + have found what works for them...for now.

2. Our choices are not one-size-fits-all, because our priorities are not one-size-fits-all...though we find our common ground in the desire to decrease our waste production. Our priorities may be similar overall, but their order may shift according (partially) to how we came to zero-waste in the first place. Some of us found our ways to zero-waste through the DIY community + love using five products to concoct one product. Some of us stumbled upon zero-waste through the frugal community + like the idea of spending less by creating buying groups + splitting real bulk quantities periodically. Some crossed paths with zero-wasters via the desire to remove unwanted chemicals from the things they use. Some found it via minimalism or an affinity to organization or a love of the outdoors or travel or the desire to exist outside the influence of big corporations or the objective of greening up a company's image or a corporate design perspective or catching the next market wave or concern about climate change or making one's own clothing or trend hopping or personal aesthetics or growing food, herbs or plant-based dyes. What's most important to each individual might be understandably, slightly different. It's amazingly exciting thing to think about the fact that all of these interests can come together under the umbrella of a desire to move toward zero-waste! 

3. Looks can be deceiving. There are those who post pictures of items they use, but admit later that they only chose to include the aesthetically pleasing items. There are those who dump out all of their half-used, non-zero-waste items in one fell swoop + stock up on all the latest recommended zero-waste swag. Do all of these zero-wasters stick with their switches forever? Do they never find a caveat or that performance is less than optimal? 

When I started writing in this space, I decided that I was going to be honest about the journey...our entirely imperfect journey...the mess, the struggle + the stumbles. I have a family + I want my choices to have an impact on their thinking as well as on the earth. If I make their lives an exercise in suffering, I would not blame my girls for wanting to get as far away from the zero-waste movement as they could in the future. As it is, they know the reasoning + they also know that there is grace in the big picture. 

Sometimes we learn things as we go along...and we still have to make choices. A product I use has synthetic fragrance in it, but an alternative gives me a choice between natural juniper or lavender fragrance...to both of which I'm allergic. My soap contains fair-trade palm oil + some of the profits go to reforestation. The alternative soap is half the size, melts quickly, costs three times as much, and needs to be mailed to me in packaging. I will keep searching for better alternatives, but in the meantime choices must be made. 
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One of my priorities is to make as little waste as possible. One of my priorities is clean hair. One of my priorities is living within our means. We balance many priorities at once...like spending more on organic produce + spending more on a good cello teacher. I personally can't spend more on both of these while also spending more on clothing with traceable origins + more on...everything else too.

This space is about choices + compassion + encouragement + options + gratitude + simplicity. I want my choices to come ultimately from a place of joy...not guilt. I want that for those who visit this space as well.

Let's keep learning. Let's do the best we can. Let's encourage one another...cheer each other on. Each piece of trash kept out of a landfill is a victory.

Love,
​Jane
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Julie
2/7/2019 01:38:49 pm

What a great reminder that we all come from different places and perspectives and we hold different values, therefore we arrive at different conclusions. The take-away for me is the importance of framing discussions (comments) from a place of kindness, encouragement and understanding and not from a place of criticism or judgment. Sometimes that’s hard to do in a few words which can easily be misunderstood, but it’s still a responsibility and worthwhile effort that I’d like to hold myself to. Thank you for your rallying cry for compassion.

Also, I wanted to share a personal shift that I’m making in my perspective which helps guide my choices. I’m a huge advocate for zero waste, but I’m a bigger advocate for a fair and kind world. Zero waste doesn’t always equal fair and kind. While I consider my personal needs, such as budget, health, effectiveness of product, etc., I try first to remove myself from my decisions and base them on what’s best for the people and the planet. Most often I find my needs are met when I place the people and planet first, which is why I can often remove myself from the equation. Another way to explain my shift is making choices not on the act (avoiding trash), but on the goal to make the world a better place. For example, should we pick a (package free) head of lettuce from Mexico that’s grown by a corporation in a monocrop that lacks nutrients in order to avoid the plastic bag containing local greens from an organic family farm who works to replenish the soil, increase diversity and feed community with nutrient dense food? I don’t think so. I guess my point (and from what I gather, your point too) is that achieving perfect is not necessarily attainable or even the best goal to aim for. Trying on different lenses may bring us to very different conclusions.

Again, I appreciate the platform you provide to educate, discuss, encourage, inspire and challenge beliefs. Thank you for your honesty and openness.

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Jane link
2/7/2019 03:12:27 pm

So true. Sometimes too...I realize after I've made my choice that I forgot about a certain aspect in my decision making process. There is a lot to consider, but I'll try again next time.

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Alix
2/7/2019 03:14:32 pm

Wonderful food for thought. It aligns well with another one of my favorite bloggers' posts today: https://readingmytealeaves.com/2019/02/life-in-a-tiny-apartment-less-and-good-enough.html

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